Sunday, December 14, 2008


I know that I talk a LOT about my life and times on Facebook. I truly do have fun with it. But lately, I've had a situation arise that has taken some of the fun out of it.

Part of the draw of getting in to Facebook is that you get to hook up again with people that you have not seen in years - people you grew up with and lost track of. I've told you all how I've gotten re-connected to friends from middle school and high school, old neighbors, etc. One of the gals I re-connected with, I went to high school with. We were not close friends, we were acquaintances. We knew some of the same people and while it was fun to catch up and chat a little, I was thinking that we were done. Well, this woman has become almost like a stalker. I mean, when I sign on to Facebook and my status shows that I am there, there she is. She calls me a LOT (I know, my bad for even giving her my phone number but who knew?).

A group of us were planning our own high school reunion for this summer and the plans just kept changing and with the way things are in my life right now, a reunion was the last thing on my mind. So I let it be known that I was withdrawing from the plans, I wished everyone well, and thought I was done. Well, this woman called repeatedly, left a LOT of e-mail messages and basically refused to accept that I was not going to be a part of this get-together. I got seriously annoyed and had to ask another friend to intervene because clearly this woman was NOT getting the message and to be honest, I didn't want to be mean to her. Then she send me a piece of flair that said, "Best Friends? More Like Sisters!" and I'm thinking, "what the heck?" I mean, we hung out a handful of times in the 11th grade! We haven't SEEN eachother in like 22 years!! I felt really uncomfortable with that statement. Well, the calls kept coming, the messages kept coming and I basically ignored her because I just did not want to deal with her. I guess I wasn't the only one feeling that way because this last weekend she deleted a bunch of us from her 'friend' list. Personally, I was relieved. I could cruise Facebook freely now! It was very liberating!

Friday I get a friend request from this woman. I ignored it. Saturday I got a friend request from this woman. I ignored it. Today I got a friend request from this I've had to block her. She seems a little bit obsessive and I really want no part of the relationship any more. She has crossed a line that I am not longer comfortable with and I don't think it's wise to encourage a relationship with her.

I hate that this has happened and that it has put a huge damper on what was a fun thing to do to pass the time. I hate that this person took that from me. I really hate that she took what was a nice memory from a fun time of our lives and tarnished it with a whole lot of crazy! I mean, I don't even call my mom or my best friend as much as this woman was contacting me. You know, I'm a friendly person; I enjoy talking to people, but even I have my limits and this woman crossed them all.

Very, very awkward.


NCLighthousekeeper said...

Ah, aren't you glad that you live many hundreds of miles apart? I have not connected with some old friends/acquaintances via Facebook because I have a bit of a fear of something like this...npbe

StaceyC4 said...

Yes, you live and you learn...