Saturday, October 8, 2011

Don't be offended if I put my fingers in my ear and ignore you...

I know, I know...I'm depressing to listen to (or read) these days but seriously things have got to get better eventually.

Deep down, I can be very petty.  I don't believe that to be a good thing but there it is.  I don't basque in others misfortune or anything but I do struggle with listening to all of the good things that are going on in other people's lives when mine is falling apart.  

For example, right now four people I know went on fabulous vacations.  Basically, I do not begrudge them their vacations, but I am having a VERY hard time wanting to sit and talk about them, and hear about them.  Three of the four are most gracious in this way; the fourth?  Not so much.  They want to cram their vacation down my throat.  

You see, it wasn't JUST a vacation, it was a FABULOUS vacation.  It was the BEST vacation.  They had the BEST place to stay and had the BEST food and they spent SO MUCH money and it was TOTALLY worth it.  By the third sentence I wanted to scream.  I mean, I'm sitting here eating canned soup for the third day in a row and so your little "All-you-can-eat-lobster-fest" is really not appealing to me on any level.

Am I wrong?  Am I just overly sensitive?  But would you go to someone who is homeless and brag about your trip to Paris?  Would you walk through the pediatric ward in the hospital and tell the parents there how healthy and wonderful your kids are?  I just think that if we're going to talk about it, have a little sensitivity, you know?  I will politely ask how your trip was (because it's the elephant in the room) but we do not need to spend ENDLESS hours talking about it, do we?

This is where the mean-girl in me fights to come out and just smack somebody.


Ruth said...

Sorry to hear your friend is being so insensitive. My son and I are planning a trip for next month, I mentioned it to a social worker we're working with a couple weeks ago and she was like "why are you planning a trip when you don't have much money coming in"? @@ I was like, I don't remember anyone saying I had to ask your permission to do fun things with my kids, lady. It's a trip with a group of online friends we haven't seen in a couple years, and the way things have been going lately I feel like we need to go away and do something fun before we go completely nuts.

I hope you can find something fun to do soon to take your mind off your troubles.

Roo said...

I'm sorry things are so rough Stace. And yes... your friend is being VERY insensitive. It's almost as if she's rubbing your nose in it.

I've had that issue with friends talking about their significant others and how they don't like this or that, when I was just wishing to have a significant other. I would finally just have to walk away.

Hang in there my friend. {{{{HUGS}}}}

Lin said...

Doesn't sound like much of a "friend" to me. In fact, I think I'd have to say "I know you had a nice trip, but the details are just really painful to me right now...can we talk about something else?" Only a TRUE friend would understand. It's times like these that your "real" friends stand out.

I hope things get better soon for you.