Monday, February 22, 2010

What kind of vacation would you take?

Okay, so recently I have been involved in a discussion about weekend vacations/getaways. I have some friends who are going away for a "couples" weekend. They talked freely about it to me even though I wasn't invited because they knew that it was not my thing. Or Frank's. SERIOUSLY not Frank's.

So I mentioned this weekend-thing to Frank, in passing, and he was just like anti-everything. I started thinking about it and was wondering if I could (if he were willing) do a couples retreat/getaway thing. Honestly? Probably not. We did the vacation thing with the family - hated it. I've done retreats with the church (ladies only) - hated it. With couples, I think you can sort of get competitive - even if you don't think so - and try to out "love" one another. You know, "We LOVE to do this" or "We ALWAYS do this together"...after a while you just want to take that one couple and shut them up! Nobody's marriage is perfect. Nobody's husband is perfect. And sorry, but unless you are married to Johnny Depp or another one of People Magazine's Sexiest Men Alive, your husband's not perfect either. It's great that WE think our husbands are hot, but trust me when I say, no one else is going or has to agree.

Couple competitions can be annoying, no doubt. It would be like a continuous loop of the Newlywed Game where you are begging to be eliminated. When you are in high school, maybe even college, it is a natural thing to want to be THE "it" couple. When you are in your late-thirties/early forties, it's not so cute.

I don't know, maybe I'm wrong to feel this way - maybe it could be fun. I'm just not seeing it. Maybe with certain people it could be fun, but I don't think I'll ever really get the chance to test the theory. We don't like to play cards or board games, and Frank is not a "sharer". I end up talking enough for the both of us and then later on he's like "Why did you talk about...(fill in the blank here with whatever marital experience that wasn't flattering to anyone). I'd rather go for a weekend away with just the girls - maybe 4 or 5 of us. That could be fun. Probably something else I won't get to experience any time soon.

So, here's the question of the day: Could you/would you go away on a couples weekend? Have you done it before and found it to be fun?

Okay, maybe two questions...


Lola said...

We haven't been on a no kids weekend getaway since 2005. We've never done a couple's getaway. I'm thinking it would be weird.

Anonymous said...

Since my husband and I are together 24/7 (he works from home) we tend to take separate vacations LOL