tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2758033543840446585.post2167293045329533360..comments2023-10-21T07:13:39.906-04:00Comments on All Stace, All the Time: So DONE!StaceyC4http://www.blogger.com/profile/01580337266163999623noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2758033543840446585.post-62442982325383599082011-03-09T16:05:24.386-05:002011-03-09T16:05:24.386-05:00Oh boy... this post is similar to my "so DONE...Oh boy... this post is similar to my "so DONE church story." I haven't went to church in almost four years now. I was very active and had been a member since 1996. In 2007 while pregnant with my last kid my husband, at the time, and I separated. My oldest went into the hospital and although I called the outreach minister didn't come or send anyone. It was posted in the bulletin and I still didn't hear from anyone. I had the baby, people knew of my separation and on and on and on... I started at that church when it was small and was there when it grew into a cathedral.<br /><br />The people that make up that church totally ruined what church really means to me. I'm not sure if my ex spread rumors about me or what, but even when I tried to go back I didn't even feel the spirit there. Unfortunately for me, my spiritual life suffered. Not only did my "Christian" husband betray my trust (no he didn't cheat), but my "Christian" family abandoned me.<br /><br />Even when I reached out to talk to people. Even when they knew...<br /><br />So I definitely understand how you feel. I haven't started the church search... the last time I did that was 1995ish... and I'm apprehensive to do so.Petulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11246335892746223347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2758033543840446585.post-88483352218380017862011-03-09T12:35:58.043-05:002011-03-09T12:35:58.043-05:00Maybe you just need a break from church life for a...Maybe you just need a break from church life for a while? Some people don't go to church at all but they still have a spiritual life. I've often felt that organized religion is, in some part, man's way of trying to "control" a deeply personal relationship with one's internal belief system. From what you've written it sounds like you mostly started going because church was something everyone in your new neighborhood did. It's like you've got your neighbors/church family on your committee, as Loretta Laroche would say. If you miss the social aspect of it there are most likely other groups you can find that would fill that need, but if the church's rules make you uncomfortable that could be God's way of telling you you don't belong there.<br /><br />I hope I haven't offended you, I know religion is a difficult subject to discuss sometimes.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16237029327710993810noreply@blogger.com